I wasn’t sure how different I would feel if I magically transformed into a man, so I made a list of traits I feel are true to my core personality: creative, wants attention, stubborn on occasion, kind, shy, and compassionate. If I were to instantly turn into a male, would these traits change? Do they only exist because I’m female?
I think changing sexes would challenge just how much I want attention. Through certain actions and mannerisms, I have learned (both consciously and unconsciously) how to use being female to my advantage — as a male, these actions and mannerisms would probably be received differently. In fact, most people would probably think I was a creep.
Here is an example: I’m authentically shy. Sure, but I’m also “fake-shy” in order to look cute in certain scenarios. I think acting “fake-shy” from time-to-time is positively received by most people I interact with. This is certainty a female privilege, but does “fake-shy” define who I am at the very core? I would have to say no, but it’s an important aspect, nonetheless.
There are probably several, if not countless, little actions like this whose survival depend on our sex.
If I were to magically transform into a man, I imagine I would still feel like me at the very core, but being a man would allow me different privileges — and, to be perfectly honest — many more privileges.
We don’t have to get into a debate on feminism or male privilege unless you really want to, but at the end of the day, I would rather be a man based on the advantages ingrained in our society.
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